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8 Signs Your Time Management Sucks

Have you ever woken up one day, and just realised that you seem to never have time for anything. And in the back of your mind as you rush for yet another appointment you stop and think to yourself 

If you have a sinking suspicion that you might be rubbish at managing your time below are a few signs that you can use to confirm your suspicion (and maybe start working towards getting better at it!)

1. Being Tardy (To almost every event)

If you see that there's nothing wrong with being late then think again.

I do understand that it is difficult to always be on time but if you’re finding yourself late to every single event you may need to stop for a minute and reassess your ability to properly manage your time. 

Because being late is sign that you're losing control of your time.​

2. You're rushing everywhere every time

Does your life feel like a never ending marathon where you keep switching from one task to another? I must admit that there too was a time where I used to think that being in an unending state of rushing means that I am being productive but I’ve come to realise that I was wrong.

When I’m always rushing it usually means that I have failed to estimate the time needed to complete a certain task accurately thus leaving me almost zero time to properly plan for all the components that needs my attention. That’s bad time management right there.

3. You're not performing

Those that fail to plan, plans to fail. Planning is crucial when executing a project.

When don't got enough time to plan and it shows up on your performance you know it's time to re-evaluate

4. Always feeling tired and stressed

If you are always overwhelmed by the amount of things you have to do maybe it’s time to take a step back and reevaluate how you’re filling up your schedule instead of stressing about always not doing something. Life is supposed to be about a balance of doing the things you want to do and doing the things you have to do.

5. Having to go back on your word

When you've missed one too many events that you swore you'd be there.  This does not include the time when you only said yes to not make it awkward.  

The sign that shows you have bad time management is when you're forced to miss something you're looking forward to because you simply do not have the time to do it.

6. You're always procrastinating

How do I know if I'm procrastinating?

Step 1: Are you supposed to be doing something?

If answer is YES!

Then: Are you doing anything else BUT that something?

If answer is still YES!

You're procrastinating

BUT you may ask what if it's something equally as important?

In that case: answer is still yes you're procrastinating

7. Unwilling to delegate tasks

If you are a firm believer in the saying ‘If you want something done right, you’ve got to do it yourself!’ then you my friend are most likely not using your time effectively.

There isn't enough hours in a day to do everything and if you fear that someone else might not be able to do your work as good as you can then that's your warning sign telling you that you have a problem with time management

8. Always having to sacrifice what you want to do for things you don't really care about

As fully functioning adults, we all have to make certain sacrifices when it comes to the things we want to do, it could be because of budget restrictions, time restrictions or even prior commitments we have made to help others. But if you always have to sacrifice doing things that you really want to do because you don’t have time then it is time to fess up and admit that you have bad time management.

8 Signs Your Time Management Sucks

Managing your time effectively is a useful skill to have especially these days when there are so many opportunities and options that we can choose from out there. Many people who are always on the go would like to believe that they are good at managing their time however some of those people (namely people like me) may not realize time management goes so much further than just being able to complete tasks on time but rather choosing wisely which opportunities to go after.

And if you’re like me and despite being able to complete your tasks on time but have this sinking feeling like somehow

Then read on because I did a similar article last year (around this time too) about managing time but somehow I just get a feeling that I’m still not utilizing my time to the fullest. So below are a few signs to help you figure out whether or not you have a problem when it comes to managing your time:

1. Being Tardy to almost everything.

I do understand that it is difficult to always be on time but if you’re finding yourself late to every single event you may need to stop for a minute and reassess your ability to properly manage your time. Although I am hardly ever late, but I have been on the other end of the waiting game where I once had to wait 45 minutes for someone and believe me it was not fun.

I remember awkwardly sitting in the shop telling the waiter ‘Oh no, I’m still waiting for someone and am not ready to order’ all while I was using their Wi-Fi on my computer.

2. Having to always rush for something

Does your life feel like a never ending marathon where you keep switching from one task to another? I must admit that there too was a time where I used to think that being in an unending state of rushing means that I am being productive but I’ve come to realise that I was wrong.

When I’m always rushing it usually means that I have failed to estimate the time needed to complete a certain task accurately thus leaving me almost zero time to properly plan for all the components that needs my attention. That’s bad time management right there.

3. A drop in performance at work

Speaking of having almost zero time, when I have a ton of things to do but with not enough bandwidth to do all of them I tend to try and do all of them at once – yes I know that’s not very smart but I can’t help it the never give up attitude in me refuse to let me admit that I can’t do something.

The result of such a situation has often also affected my ability to perform. And the red flags go way up for me that it’s time to reevaluate the situation and get a more realistic grip on my scheduling skills.

4. Always feeling tired or stressed

It’s simply horrifying now that I stop to think about it -how the inability to manage time can affect so many aspects of my life? The inability to manage time usually leaves people feeling either like stressed by the amount of work they have to do or tired because they’re forever catching up to the things they have to do.

If you are always overwhelmed by the amount of things you have to do maybe it’s time to take a step back and reevaluate how you’re filling up your schedule instead of stressing about always not doing something. Life is supposed to be about a balance of doing the things you want to do and doing the things you have to do.

5. Having to go back on your word

Remember that one time where you promised your best friend you will be there for her open mic but had to cancel last minute because you have too much work or remember the other time you promised your sister you would buy your mother a birthday present but only realized your forgot to get anything a day after your mum’s birthday?

I will be there first to admit I may have found myself in one of those situations and then some. When I started forgetting three events in a row that’s when I know – yep I probably need to stop having that weird fear of missing out when I say yes to everything.

6. You are known to procrastinate

If you’re not sure whether you are known to procrastinate here’s a quick test.

Step 1: Are you supposed to be doing something?

If answer is YES.

Then: Are you doing anything else to avoid doing that something?

If answer is still YES:

You’re procrastinating.

But what if it’s something else that is equally as important?

Yes, you’re still procrastinating.

Just think of it this way, if the guy at McDonalds gave you a double cheese burger when you asked for a Big Mac. Does it still count as him getting your order wrong?

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The answer is YES, although you may think what you’re doing to replace it is equally as important but just like the Double Cheese Burger it isn’t the same thing.

7. Unwilling to delegate tasks

If you are a firm believer in the saying ‘If you want something done right, you’ve got to do it yourself!’ then you my friend are most likely not using your time effectively. Can we all agree that it is almost next to impossible to do everything by yourself?

By taking on everything on your own and having a fear to let anyone else do even the simplest of things is a vice you have then it’s time to lose that vice because there’s a big red siren going off somewhere that’s going to tell you that you’re not effectively using your time.

8. You are always having to sacrifice the things you really want to do

As fully functioning adults, we all have to make certain sacrifices when it comes to the things we want to do, it could be because of budget restrictions, time restrictions or even prior commitments we have made to help others. But if you always have to sacrifice doing things that you really want to do because you don’t have time then it is time to fess up and admit that you have bad time management.

5 Lessons To Learn From Chinese New Year

As we usher in the year of the Fire Rooster, we go through the motions of yet again following strict traditions in order to usher in good fortune and prevent bad things from happening. Coming from a family that values time together the most, my parents would –to this very day, still insist that we wake up at odd hours of the early morning to travel a couple hundreds of kilometers just to avoid the massive traffic jam in order to spend that extra time with family.

Throughout the many years of celebrating or should I say surviving this auspicious yearly event, I begin to reflect and have realized that there are many things that can be learnt from the many traditions and taboos still practiced today.

WHEN IN TROUBLE: TAI CHI YOUR WAY OUT

When attempting to do something you know will not end very well for you, for example taking an extra cookie from the cookie jar, or maybe wanting to borrow an extra bit of money; it all boils down to pushing away the bad energy from whomever your targeting –by either distracting them or shifting their focus,

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making that energy positive again –by providing them with a bit of good news to get them into a good mood, and then going in for the kill

WHEN IN DOUBT: OBSERVE AND PLAY ALONG

During the festive season you're usually at lost at what the proper thing to do in these situations but thankfully there's always bound to be a cousin,  or a sibling or a distant relative your age that does.

This concept that also be applied to life. Whenever you’ve encountered a roadblock and have absolutely no idea on how to get pass it, look out for people from your peers who might have the solution.

DO THINGS IN MODERATION

I hope it's not just me when I say that after the week of festivities are over I seem to have grown extra round. And in life sometimes we tend to overdo things.

The best way to ensure that you do not break deviate too far from your limit and goals is to do things in moderation. Doing things in moderation takes discipline and continuous effort. You would have to set a limit for yourself and learn when to say no thanks once you’re approaching that limit.

TURN THE NEGATIVE INTO POSITIVES

This choice to find a positive action you can take from a mean critic can get you far in life. Instead of being affected by the negativity it's best that you bounce back and try to find action steps to better improve yourself (though this needs to be done after thorough reflection and taking those criticisms you've received with a pinch of salt.)

JUST SMILE AND WAVE

When feeling negative feelings build up, smiling and waving can distract you long enough to get over the feelings of negativity. If you have a bad habit in which you wish to break and start replacing that bad habit with a good habit.

5 Lessons To Learn From Chinese New Year

Chinese New Year or more commonly known as the Lunar New Year is a time of togetherness, it is a time of throwing out the old and welcoming the new, Chinese New Year at its core is quite similar to the Gregorian New Year as they both share the same spirit of starting a new but with a whole lot more fireworks and whole lot less of drunken partying. It is a yearly affair in which many Chinese people (this author included) look forward to, as we spend time with family over a tremendous amount of food and equally tremendous amounts of things being coated in red.

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This year as we usher in the year of the Fire Rooster, we go through the motions of yet again following strict traditions in order to usher in good fortune and prevent bad things from happening. Coming from a family that values time together the most, my parents would –to this very day, still insist that we wake up at odd hours of the early morning to travel a couple hundreds of kilometers just to avoid the massive traffic jam in order to spend that extra time with family.

Throughout the many years of celebrating or should I say surviving this auspicious yearly event, I begin to reflect and have realized that there are many things that can be learnt from the many traditions and taboos still practiced today.

Below are five things I’ve learnt from years of successfully surviving the grueling marathon of cleaning a year’s worth of dust in a day, the test of agility and stamina by being part of the crew of people cooking enough food to feed the whole terracotta army, the test of strength and patience in answering uncomfortable questions courtesy of the many extended family members that I cannot begin to name, and the seemingly innocent house visiting and/or guests hosting events that never seem to end.

1.  WHEN IN TROUBLE : TAI CHI YOUR WAY OUT

Gambling, drinking, overeating and giving money away to big babies who do not deserve it has always been big no no in any Chinese household except for a select 15 days in that we like to call the New Year (Chinese). Annually on the Eve of Chinese New Year, Chinese families reunite in their households to usher in more luck and prosperity for the New Year, and this is when the lifting of the strict rules begins.

During this period of time, all rules that were stringently in place and behaviours that are usually frowned upon are allowed and sometimes even encouraged. To me this has been quite a curious phenomenon and from this I have observed that the ability to get away with something unfavourable can also replicated outside this 15 day period using the simple martial arts concept of Tai Chi.

Tai Chi is practiced worldwide for good health. It is the concept of pushing away the bad energy from ourselves and changing that energy into good energy and reverting it back to ourselves. This same concept I’ve found can be extrapolated and replicated to other situations outside of Chinese New Year.

When attempting to do something you know will not end very well for you, for example taking an extra cookie from the cookie jar, or maybe wanting to borrow an extra bit of money; it all boils down to pushing away the bad energy from whomever your targeting –by either distracting them or shifting their focus,

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making that energy positive again –by providing them with a bit of good news to get them into a good mood,

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and then going in for the kill

2.  WHEN IN DOUBT: OBSERVE AND PLAY ALONG

Having a large extended family can make anyone feel dizzy after a while; this is especially the case during Chinese New Year when you have long distanced relatives who are supposed to be your grandmother’s second cousin’s daughter’s husband.

On top of having a long list of unidentified relatives, the list to the many traditions and taboos are equally as long if not longer. Both these situations leave many people in confusion and after a while you will realized that there will always be someone – a cousin, a sibling, a second cousin, who knows exactly what to do in those kind of situations. The best course of action is to then follow that person and play along with confidence almost as though you too are a connoisseur in all things Chinese New Year.

This concept can also be duplicated in other situations as well. Whenever you’ve encountered a roadblock and have absolutely no idea on how to get pass it, look out for people from your peers who might have the solution. I usually share my difficulties in passing with the people I meet; some people may have the answers I’ve been looking for and in the unlikely event that I find that

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I'd at least get that person to suggest someone else to give me further clarification.

3.  DO THINGS IN MODERATION

After many years of stuffing my face and breaking the weighing scale after the 15 days are up, I’ve realized that when approaching the goodness of Chinese New Year too much of a good thing can be a bad thing. I’ve realized that whenever I’ve gone past my limit I usually say to myself “I’ve already gone past my limit anyway, what one or two more of these is going to change”. Sooner or later this one or two more becomes ten or twenty more and by that time I’ll be regretting my earlier decision of allowing myself to compromise on the little things.

Little things being overlooked will eventually lead to even bigger and bigger things.

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The best way to ensure that you do not break deviate too far from your limit and goals is to do things in moderation. Doing things in moderation takes discipline and continuous effort. You would have to set a limit for yourself and learn when to say no thanks once you’re approaching that limit.

What I’d usually like to do when I realise that I’m nearing my limit especially when it comes to bad habits would be to distract myself with other things long enough for the desire to pass. About 90% of the time the desire to continue on with the bad habit will naturally just disappear.

4. FOCUS ON WHAT YOU CAN GET OUT OF A NEGATIVE 'CRITICISM'

Leading up to the festive season a friend of mine posted a very interesting question. She wondered why during the festive season our relatives only asks us really uncomfortable questions. Questions like ‘Are you getting married soon?’, ‘Are you earning a high salary yet?’ and sometimes even the painful ‘You look like you’ve put on more weight this year’ but nobody ever asks you whether you are happy.

And that did get me thinking, why don’t they ever ask you whether you are happy? Is it because the society in which we exists in only functions to make us feel like we’ll never be good enough? Or is it connected to an underlining desire to see us prosper?

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I choose to believe in the later, I choose to believe that my relatives me ask these uncomfortable questions because they associate wealth, appearance and having a stable family as things that will naturally make you a happier and better functioning part of society.

This choice to find a positive action you can take from a mean critic can get you far in life. Instead of being affected by the negativity it's best that you bounce back and try to find action steps to better improve yourself (though this needs to be done after thorough reflection and taking those criticisms you've received with a pinch of salt.)

5.  JUST SMILE AND WAVE

Speaking of intent and dealing with relatives who seem to shoot questions at you faster than a machine gun, the best way of dissuading them of their pursuit is to simply smile and wave. Despite being uncomfortable just smile and wave, despite feeling like sarcastically retorting to their questions just keep smiling and waving, this method works wonders in helping you remain in a happy mood

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Your relatives will tire of asking you questions eventually and when it is all said and done, you’d probably be more likely to get away with even more things next year when you see them again (case in point number 1 above).

In following the fashion of this article, I will now tell you how smiling and waving can applied to other aspects of life. Smiling and waving can distract you long enough to get over the feelings of negativity. If you have a bad habit in which you wish to break start replacing that bad habit with a good habit, and I understand good habits are difficult to cultivate. A trick I used here is to smile whilst attempting to cultivate this good habit and sooner or later I believed that this good habit was something I looked forward to doing.

I hope you’ve found this article useful, write to me and tell me more about what you think about surviving Chinese New Year and maybe we could even exchange ideas on how to survive it better next year.

Cultivating Good Habits

Have you ever realized that despite your best efforts to want to change yourself for the better and take on a new lease on life, one way or another you seem to be falling into the same bad habits over and over again? And as you repeatedly do something you regret to think to yourself

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The main reason why it’s so difficult to break bad habits and replace them with good ones is because habits are just really strong. In fact, they are so strong that our brains subconsciously choose them at the exclusion of everything else- including common sense and what is worse is that because they are habits they will begin to take root in our lives –becoming more and more automatic over time if we do nothing to stop it.

The good news however is there are a few ways to cultivate good habits to replace the bad habits.

ONE HABIT AT A TIME

Focus on cultivating one good habit at a time. Most of the time, when we’ve set our sights on turning over a new leaf we tend to want to do it all at the same time. This takes too much effort and too much brain power on our end to actively choose to change many different aspects of our lives.

REWARD YOURSELF

The reason why bad habits to some of us are easier to build than good habits it’s because the joy you derive from a bad habit is likely to be more immediate when compared to a good habit.

Therefore it is important to reward ourselves immediately to provide instant gratification so that even on a neurological level we equate this good habit as good as well.

STAY FOCUSED

Sooner or later when you actively take a step towards cultivating your good habit you will start seeing results. At this phase, most people will be tempted to give in to temptation. This part is crucial that you try your very best to remove all forms of temptation that will allow you to fall back into old habits.

LOSE THE GUILT

And if all else fails and you do give in to temptation –despite removing all sources of temptation, do not wallow in self guilt. Instead of feeling guilty about it and beating ourselves up about it, the best way to bounce back is to know that it is normal and repeat the process of building the habit.

Shake the feeling like you’ve failed and recommit yourself to staying focused on cultivating that good habit!

Stay focused and continue persevering you can do this!

How To Stand Out While Interning

Everyone has had sad sad experiences while interning, from struggling with the xerox machine to having to run around getting coffee for your seniors. You may even sometimes wonder during an internship

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There are many benefits to doing an internship, (though we cannot deny there are some downsides but) the upsides are:

· you get to have a test run of what the working world is really like before diving head first

· you get to gain valuable insights and knowledge you’d probably not get anywhere else, and

· lastly if you are outstanding it will most likely guarantee you a job once you graduate/ finish your internship.

Therefore for you to get to that end goal of securing that job here are a few things to keep in mind to stand out while interning.

ALWAYS ACT PROFESSIONAL

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However, being professional goes so much further than how you dress and how you do your work. It also includes the way you speak with other people and how you carry yourself in the work setting

GETTING TO KNOW YOUR BOSS

Every boss is unique and has different working styles. Sometimes we interns may get stuck with a really sucky boss/ superior but that is not to say that there is no good thing that can come out of it. Know his/her working styles, what he likes or dislikes and what is his values both as an individual and as a professional.

BE THERE TO LEARN

Interning is your best chance to learn all you can and absorb everything like a sponge, try your very best to get into projects that’ll give you the best opportunity to learn something new. Try your very best to say yes to projects that you have no experience in because chances are everything they throw at you is going to be something new. Say yes and figure it out along the way.

HUMBLE YOURSELF

If you feel that you could add value and help things run a little more efficiently than by all means I do suggest you voice your opinion but keep in mind the way you phrase your sentence or question can make all the difference between people (or worse your boss) thinking you’re a know-it-all snob versus a genuinely curious pro-active intern trying to make the workspace a better place.

I hope some of these tips helped! Also share your horror stories while interning below most of us do, I would loved to hear about them.

How To Stand Out While Interning

As you sit (or stand) there by the Xerox printer at 5pm waiting for the final documents of your supervisor’s report –that so happens to be due on her desk tomorrow morning at, counting down the minutes before you bolt out the door. You hear that dreading beeping telling you that there is an error with the machine. You quickly start maniacally pressing every single button available whilst scanning across the room looking for someone who you think will be willing to help out but to no avail. As the feeling of helplessness and frustration begins to kick in, you think to yourself are internships really worth all that it’s hyped up to be?

If the above scenario seems a little too real for you then I hope you find comfort in knowing that we’ve all ( or most of us anyways) have been there and it’s probably a rite of passage one must go through before entering the working world. Internships, especially specialised internship programmes, are growing in popularity these days both in the number of companies offering them and the number of people applying for such positions.

Internships are a great way for an organisation to not only recruit great talent even before they graduate but also a great way to keep a steady pulse on the changing needs of their future workforce. Then you might be thinking

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There are many benefits to doing an internship ( though we cannot deny there are some downsides but) the upsides are:

· You get to have a test run of what the working world is really like before diving head first

· You get to gain valuable insights and knowledge you’d probably not get anywhere else, and

· Lastly if you are outstanding it will most likely guarantee you a job once you graduate/ finish your internship.

Therefore for you to get to that end goal of securing that job here are a few things to keep in mind to stand out while interning.

ALWAYS ACT PROFESSIONAL

You might be thinking

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However, being professional goes so much further than how you dress and how you do your work. It also includes the way you speak with other people and how you carry yourself in the work setting. The degree as to how ‘professional’ you should act are also subjective to the organisation, therefore the best way to know what level of professionalism you should adhere to is to observe those who are already in the organisation. How people act are a good indicator as to the company culture and how you should act as well.

GET TO KNOW YOUR BOSS

Every boss is unique and has different working styles. Sometimes we interns may get stuck with a really sucky boss/ superior but that is not to say that there is no good thing that can come out of it. Know his/her working styles, what he likes or dislikes and what is his values both as an individual and as a professional.

This is not to say that you spend all your time with your boss nor this is to say that you’re always there with a cup of coffee in the morning when he enters the office – unless you’re absolutely sure that is what he needs to start the day, because really that’ll only make you look like a kiss ass to the other people in the office. Observe from the way he presents his ideas to others, observe how other people behave around him and from there it would give you a good guestimation on who he/she is as an individual and how to anticipate what he requires of you before even asking for it.

BE THERE TO LEARN

Interning is your best chance to learn all you can and absorb everything like a sponge, try your very best to get into projects that’ll give you the best opportunity to learn something new. Try your very best to say yes to projects that you have no experience in because chances are everything they throw at you is going to be something new. Say yes and figure it out along the way.

A word of caution though, don’t say that you know how to do something when you clearly don’t, say you are willing to learn and would need some guidance in the area because that way that would set a manageable expectation for the person giving you the task. Do your research on the task and ask questions should you be unsure about anything. The best way is to either ask other interns first or ask those in the organisation whom you can trust to validate that what you’re asking isn’t some trivial question that may trigger the person giving you the task.

HUMBLE YOURSELF

Being young and well educated can sometimes lead us to thinking that you probably can do a better job that so and so but the likelihood of you knowing more on how things are run and what should be done at the organisation are probably really low. That is not to say that you aren’t an outstanding individual and can probably do a great job but sometimes it is good humble ourselves to just living the experience and learning how to play nice with others.

If you feel that you could add value and help things run a little more efficiently than by all means I do suggest you voice your opinion but keep in mind the way you phrase your sentence or question can make all the difference between people (or worse your boss) thinking you’re a know-it-all snob versus a genuinely curious pro-active intern trying to make the workspace a better place.

And if all else fails I suppose you can always continue studying! So don't sweat the small stuff, stay focused and just do your best!

Start Committing To Taking Action

Happy New Year everyone! (Yes I'm technically still allowed to say that). Since it's the new years I've had the sudden realisation that

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If you're in the same boat as we let's both commit to taking action and acheiving our goals this year and below are a few steps on how to do it.

CONQUER YOUR FEAR

This year choose courage over fear and the best way to do it is to start by understanding what exactly is it that you want. It’s usually easier for us to downplay our fears when we can see the benefits outweighing the costs.

UNDERSTANDING YOUR GOAL

The next step after you’ve gotten over your fear you need to map out a plan to get to your goal. In his bestselling book the 7 habits of highly effective people, Stephen Covey says that people who are highly successful usually start with the end in mind. This is a great concept that will help us understand our goal.

HAVE A PLAN

Map out your action steps through careful planning. Think of possible challenges that you may face and opportunities you will have to seize in order to get from one step to another. Start by setting up mini goals or mini ‘upgrades’ you have to go through so that the cumulative of these goals will lead you to your ultimate goal.

Next come up with a general timeline and set up check points to motivate you and give yourself that little added pressure in order to sustain your motivation.​

TAKING THE NEXT SMALL STEP

As you look at your plan, you may feel overwhelmed by the amount of work you have to get done and right about now that little voice in your head is probably already saying that it’s too much effort.

​Just keep taking small steps forward and stick to your timeline because sooner or later by just doing what is possible you’d surprise yourself by doing what is impossible

BE ACCOUNTABLE TO YOURSELF

Lastly be true to yourself, you can get someone to be your accountability buddy to track your progress but in all truth and honesty

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The only person who can make a change in your life is you so it’s about time that we try our very best to stay discipline and do whatever it takes to get there.

I’m rooting for you! You can do this!

Start Committing To Taking Action

Happy New Year! Yes it is still technically the new year as I’d like to believe that last week was a practice run for the real 2017! And every year during this time when we scroll through our social media feed, we can’t seem to shake the never ending posts of people determined to be a better person this year. And as you sit there on your phone scrolling you think back and say to yourself

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Though it does feel like we’ve been busy the whole of 2016, in a frenzy running around doing things, but let’s be honest that’s just what life is - busy. We occupy our time with things to keep us busy so we don’t have to face the reality that we’re really just running around in circles and not really getting anywhere.

If you’re tired of running around and feel that this is the year you want to make the leap forwards below are a few steps you can take to see your plan to fruition.

CONQUER YOUR FEAR

Most of time, people are unable to take action because there is an innate fear within them that leaves them paralysed (sometimes it’s the lack of drive) but most of the time it’s fear. Fear of failure, fear or letting other people down, fear that the road ahead is going to be difficult and rough.

This year choose courage over fear and the best way to do it is to start by understanding what exactly is it that you want. It’s usually easier for us to downplay our fears when we can see the benefits outweighing the costs.

UNDERSTANDING YOUR GOAL

The next step after you’ve gotten over your fear you need to map out a plan to get to your goal. In his bestselling book the 7 habits of highly effective people, Stephen Covey says that people who are highly successful usually start with the end in mind. This is a great concept that will help us understand our goal.

To start with the end in mind, you would have to begin each day, task, or project with a clear visualization on what you want to achieve at the end of the day. This goal needs to be specific, actionable and measurable.

With the goal in mind, you would have to work backwards on what action steps you would have to take in order to get to that goal..

HAVE A PLAN

Map out your action steps through careful planning. Think of possible challenges that you may face and opportunities you will have to seize in order to get from one step to another. Start by setting up mini goals or mini ‘upgrades’ you have to go through so that the cumulative of these goals will lead you to your ultimate goal.

The next step is to set up a general timeline of what you want to achieve and by when you want to achieve this goal. Set up check points to motivate you and give yourself that little added pressure in order to sustain your motivation. For example if your plan is to start and run a successful online business with revenues amounting to $500,000 then your plan would be a breakdown of each month and the things that you would have to get done and the sales you would have to make in order to get to that $500,000 mark.

The easiest way to do this is to break down what are the different components of your resolution and set up weekly or monthly milestones that you need to unlock. This reprograms your brain into thinking it as more of a game or a challenge that you can unlock instead of an arduous task that you have to complete at the expense of your own comfort.

TAKING THE NEXT SMALL STEP

As you look at your plan, you may feel overwhelmed by the amount of work you have to get done and right about now that little voice in your head is probably already saying that it’s too much effort.

Now more than ever you have to start doing something because if you let that voice in your head convince you that you can’t do it, you’re back to square one. Just start doing something, pen an email to someone who think might help, go online a Google for ways to start an online business ( or whatever it is that you want to do). Just keep taking small steps forward and stick to your timeline because sooner or later by just doing what is possible you’d surprise yourself by doing what is impossible

BE ACCOUNTABLE TO YOURSELF

Last be true to yourself, you can get someone to be your accountability buddy to track your progress but in all truth and honesty

Working towards bettering different areas of our lives is bound to be difficult but it doesn’t have to be. Things like leading a healthier lifestyle or saving more (or starting to save) money are probably difficult things to start doing.

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The only person who can make a change in your life is you so it’s about time that we try our very best to stay discipline and do whatever it takes to get there.

I’m rooting for you! You can do this!

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